Friday, January 23, 2009
So there you have it.....
Matt is holding firm on not going the adoption route, I admit this breaks my heart but we are a team and we have to do what we BOTH feel comfortable with. This leaves us with treatment, which we all know I'm afraid of but not against so I have had a little talk with my body and told it that it has one last month to do this right or we go to an RE. LOL, if only it were that easy. I'm excited to sit down with an RE and see what kind of route they suggest. We are taking it day by day and one step at a time.
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I hope having a plan can help bring you some peace. I was sad about going to see the RE for the first time, but it made me feel good to talk to someone else about our situation who was knowledgeable and encouraging. It felt like we were taking good steps toward what we wanted to achieve. Best of luck to you.
You definitely have to make the decision TOGETHER. For months Ben refused to even think about adoption (and we were finishing a year of infertility treatments). I felt so hopeless, but I knew I couldn't pressure him in the decision....The last thing I wanted was for him to be resentful at me for doing something he didn't fully agree with.
I prayed about it for months and one day "out of the blue" Ben woke up and decided we should adopt! God is always working, whether it be through RE's or agencies. If he's put it in your heart to be a mom, you'll be a mom! :)
(lots of women get pregnant on Clomid or the like after only a few months!)
It's a hard decision to make either way. I bawled my eyes out when I got the referral to the RE. But I felt a lot better going in there and getting tested and a plan. I felt like we knew a lot more and covered more basis.
The other big push for us was insurance. Insurance covers everything through IVF, but if we adopted it would all be out of pocket.
One thing someone told me was to set a timeline on the # of infertility treatments you're willing to go through (for instance, will you just use medicine, will you go through IUIs, go through IVF, etc. and how many of each before you move on to the next step or call it quits). This doesn't have to be a now decision, but something to think about for the future. We had decided to do max a year and 9 months of treatments, but we got pregnant before that.
I'm wishing you all the best as you both wrestle with the tough decisions.
~~HUGS~~
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